Turning 26 years-old
Earlier this, I wrote down brief but important advice for myself. Here's a revised version, as we turn the page to 2024.
- Practice good deeds and celebrate success in silence. The point is to do good. Not to elevate your status.
- Always assume good intentions and don't take anything personally.
- Set clear expectations for what you want out of a relationship. Revisit them as often as possible.
- Know when to give something up. The time, money and energy you invested doesn't make it more worthwhile. Keep the concept of sunk costs in mind.
- Don't waste time or energy in things you cannot change.
- Stand up for what you believe in. Be willing to walk alone if you have to.
- Embrace your uniqueness. No one else in the entire world thinks the way you do or has your life experience. And that's your unfair advantage.
- Trust yourself and your decisions.
- Extreme people get extreme results. Work as hard as you can.
- Focus on the things that don't change. The books, technologies, ideas, relationships that are likely to still be here in 50 years.
- Prioritise practical experience over books and theory. The shorter the feedback cycle, the better.
- Admit your mistakes and shortcomings openly and emphatically. That will make you grow.
- Be humble with knowledge. What you know is so much less than what you don't know. And every person knows more about something than you do.
- Surround yourself with people who challenge you and help you grow.
- Be consistent and practice your craft deliberately but be patient with results. It takes time but sooner or later they'll come. Keep showing up and doing the work.
- Reject most labels and boxes. Don't let them define who you are or who you can become.
- Cultivate disobedience. In yourself and others. That's how new knowledge is created and how society evolves.
- Seek to understand the world. Leave your bubble and travel as often as you can on your own.
- Don't try to be perceived as smart. That will keep you from learning and connecting with people genuinely.
- Question everything about yourself and about what you believe in. Don't be afraid of changing your mind or seeming inconsistent.